|
Communicating Across Differences: An Introductory Presentation for a General Audience |
|
|
|
|
Page 6 of 8 V. Requests
Vid Axel has prepared the following material for use in Communicating Across Differences.
Although in large measure the following takes inspiration from material related to Nonviolent Communication (NVC), the following has not been reviewed or approved by the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) or by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D., author of Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life. For information about these sources and their certified training in NVC, please visit cnvc.org
To skip to the Table of Contents in Brief, please click here.
Vid created the following table to assist those who have listened to his presentation to practice formulating requests rather than demands.
|
After: Request |
Shut up. |
Once you've said forty words, would you be willing to ask me what I've heard you say? |
Slow down, now! |
Would you be willing to drive no faster than 30 mph in a 25 mph speed zone? |
Do what I say! |
Would you be willing to sit down in that chair now and remain silent while I read? |
| Damn it, honey, you better stop smoking, or else! |
Would you be willing now to talk with me about how concerned I feel about your health? |
| You can't maintain that position! |
Would you be willing now to discuss how scared I feel about implementing any form of that political proposal, and why? |
| How could you write that? What's wrong with you? |
Would you be willing now to discuss with me options for learning more about grammar and writing? |
| How could you let yourself go like that? |
Would you be willing now to discuss how I'm guessing you're trying to meet your needs with your current eating strategy? |
| You've got to come home on time! |
Would you be willing to express to your boss how passionately you want to leave work no later than 5:30 PM on any day? |
| Damn it, get your act together! |
Would you be willing to agree now to turn in this assignment to me by 3:00 PM tomorrow? |
| Can't you get this through that thick skull of yours? |
Would you be willing to write down on your shopping list now, "13 gallon kitchen garbage bags"? |
| Clean your room! |
Would you be willing to agree now to the following? By 2:00 PM tomorrow, would you be willing to put the towels in the laundry; the shirts on hangars in the closet; the papers on the desk and the books on the shelves? |
To skip to the Table of Contents in Brief, please click here.
To skip to the Table of Contents in Brief, please click here.
|
